Goin' to the Chapel

Trying to plan a dream wedding in and of itself is a full time job... probably why some folks choose to hire an event planner. 

For the rest of us who are are too broke (me) or feel the need to do it on their own (also me), we're trudging through with making plans.  

I still haven't the slightest clue what we truly want out of a wedding. We have a venue but I'm 98% certain that I want to cancel it and just do a small ceremony in a backyard. But even with that option, there are so many questions that need to be figured out.

I love the idea of a small ceremony but hate that it would mean a minimal guest list. I can't invite only the people I actually want to be present as the other side of that would be far to upset with Josh and I. We both have larger families than I realized. We both have a lot of friends we couldn't dream of not being present.

Beyond the guest list, weddings are so expensive! Just the mere mention of "wedding" and the price of basic products sky rockets. And all the things that come with weddings... why can't there just be venues that automatically include all the things at base price. Pause that, I did find one place that offered this and at the least expensive of all of their options it was still well over $10k.

Who the heck has that kind of money to throw onto a single day?? No shade on those that can and do, but realistically, Josh and I just don't. We want a house. We want a family. We (I) want a dog. These things weigh more on our dreams than a singular day on which I'm 100% certain will involve me staining a beautiful overpriced wedding dress.

I've never even wanted to have a big wedding but I think I got caught up in the shine of my ring and people immediately asking questions of when and where. Josh... Josh doesn't care. He wants to make sure it's what I want because "it's more your day than mine," but honestly all I care about is officially becoming Mrs. Spada and becoming the dream team husband and wife that we are at boyfriend and girlfriend. 

The courthouse is looking more and more enticing!